If You Feel Like Things Are Falling Apart, They Are Probably Actually Coming Together

Most of us don’t like change, preferring to get trapped inside a cocoon than to fly like a butterfly. This excerpt from Tama Kieves, from his recent book Thriving Through Uncertainty: Overcoming Fear of the Unknown and Making Change Work for You, is meant to help you see that another world is available to you. All you have to do is let it go:

There is no other world.

We have all sung this dirge in one way or another. There is no love for me outside of this loveless marriage. There is no money for me beyond this grueling career. There’s no way things will fall together now, because if they were supposed to go together, they would; I must be riding a rickshaw while everyone else takes the plane.

It takes enormous courage to believe that things can be different. Or that there is a life beyond what you can see or even imagine, or a you, that is complete and inspired.

“There is no other world,” says your fear. And to this I say, with great deference to your pain: Poppycock (whatever that really means). Change is always what’s for dinner.

Buddha said that all suffering comes from trying to hold onto your chocolate mousse. Well, he didn’t say that. He said we try to make things permanent. But the nature of reality is fluid.

Real life opens up, breathes, disintegrates and expands. It always expands, even when we feel like things are stuck or going in the wrong direction.

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Life is designed to vibrate. We are designed to loosen our lobster shells and become new ones. Your true happiness doesn’t come from a stable stock market, a potential job or relationship party, or weather control. It’s about learning to thrive in times when you have no control. Boys and girls, we live in dynamic times.

We are all dynamos

We are being awakened in our powers.

“The voice of eternity within us demands to be heard,” says the philosopher Soren Kierkegaard, “and to make itself heard it makes use of the strong voice of affliction, and when, with the help of affliction, all irrelevant voices are al silence, you can hear it. “That is a high class way of saying that pain can awaken you to your Great Image of Life and the only relevant voice there is, your True Self.

You are not the erratic conditions of this moment. You are a powerhouse. You are a continuous force of evolution. You are a phenomenon, a surprise even to yourself. An inspired life is more than the life you planned. This is the nature of prospering. There is an orchestration, a calculation, sometimes an ambush, but always an intelligence that fuels “chaos.”

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I never imagined that my life could be so out of control. But I found myself sitting on a beach in Northern California, watching the waves, thinking of taking my own life. He couldn’t bear to practice law another day. And I couldn’t afford to quit. Just last week, I couldn’t muster my usually fierce willpower and write the writing in front of me. There was another will at work now.

I was so tired. Fighting myself all the time. I hate this job. You have to stay in this job. The boxing match that never ended. I thought it was being practical. I thought I was being strong. Now I look back, years later, and I realize that I was fighting a tidal wave. I was pushing back the hunger to live my full expression and the most amazing awakening that ever happened to me. I was resisting my True Life.

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Came home from California a mess. A few weeks later, I left my career without a plan or a viable source of income. It was an end and a beginning. Years later, now in a life in which I have taught so many others to awaken their inspired lives, I cannot imagine that I could have chosen another life, a life that denied my creativity, my essence, my life purpose and the wildest. . happiness that I have known. But I tried to hold on to what I knew at the time. We all do.

We all have a True Life, the life that does not resemble our plans, but perhaps arises from a deeper wisdom within us. This other intelligence bypasses our conditioning and challenges our expectations of how things should go. This life leads us to surrender or acceptance even when we still don’t understand what is happening. This life brings us to the truth of our bones. True Life always prevails. The desires of the soul are formidable.

I have seen brilliant transformations in people who have faced addictions, health problems, or the death of a loved one. I have seen these changes in those seeking to express their life’s work or experience true love. Whatever the situation, the change is always the same: you cannot do what you have always done and then over time you can do what you have never done. And always in the end, you would not come back for nothing.

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This is the gift of uncertain times. Know that undoing what no longer works for you is a strength, yes, even when you think it does. Undo is progress, not chaos….

A mother does not have to understand or trust the birthing process to give birth. Your next expression wants to be born. Great and powerful forces concentrate their strength around you. It’s your time. You are discovering a new way to breathe and feel safe in the world, even if you cannot imagine it. Change can wear a wolf suit. Still, don’t be fooled. It is a wild and abundant magic that knocks on your door.

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Graduated with honors from Harvard Law School, Tama Kieves He left his legal practice to write and help others create their most extraordinary lives. Featured on USA TODAY, Forbes and Oprah Radio, she is the author four best-selling books And he’s a highly sought-after speaker who runs retreats and online programs that help you unlock your brilliance, no matter what’s going on. Sign up to receive your free Fortune digital cookies and popular monthly newsletter at www.tamakieves.com.

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