They are all going through their journey in life, and most of them have a great goal somewhere at the end of the road. You probably also have one of your own, if not several. They are not always easy to achieve, but you do your best to reach them anyway.
But what happens when your initial motivation and inspiration runs out? What happens when you are not sure you want to continue? How can you avoid falling apart? Here are four ways to move on when you think about giving up.
1. Get in touch with your emotions
Some feelings are driving your desire to give up. Avoiding or ignoring them will only take you further away from perseverance. What does this mean? Well, it’s time for you to get in touch with yourself and how you feel.
The emotions you experience are happening for a reason. It would be better if you recognized them to work through them. Remember, your feelings come from something that worries you, even if it’s subconscious. Working to find the roots of those emotions brings you closer to yourself and tells you what to do. Here are some tips:
Mental health and positive thinking they determine many things, from motivation to physical health. It is essential to recognize that what you feel is as concerning to your health as it is a threat to your physical health. By remembering this importance, you allow yourself to trust and value how you feel.
Point out why you want to give up
There are so many reasons why you may feel like ending things. It is essential to determine what that cause is. Are you tired? Fearful? Bored? Discouraged? Traumatized? Apathetic? Depressed? These details determine what you can do next to help yourself.
Be comfortable with discomfort
There will always be points in your life where you are outside of your comfort zone, and those points are necessary for progress. If this fuels your desire to give up, it’s time to step back and acknowledge the need for discomfort. You will have to practice feeling uncomfortable with new and unfamiliar situations if you want to progress in any area of life!
Don’t let despair win
No matter what you do, don’t give in to feelings of hopelessness. Your emotions may not always reflect reality, so think about whether your feelings are validated by real circumstances or the product of unrealistic anxieties. Acknowledging your emotions does not mean being a doormat to them, so don’t let them win if they are not justified. Instead, show yourself the evidence that your emotions are not fact-based and have power.
2. Plan ahead
When it feels like your world is out of control, sometimes your brain needs to help you stop being so overwhelmed. The desire to give up is often the reason why you cannot think about the road ahead without freaking out, feeling hopeless, or feeling that there is too much or that you are unable to fulfill your dreams.
Create a schedule
A schedule allows you to create routines around daily tasks. These tasks will become more comfortable and feel more natural the more often you do them. When planning a schedule, you assign yourself clear responsibilities that can make the future seem less daunting.
· Set goals
Setting goals often has a positive effect on you because it helps you stay organized, visualize success, and hold yourself accountable. When you feel like giving up, you can motivate him while showing him how manageable his goals can be. Try setting several different purposes, but start small. Plan a few simple short-term goals and then work your way up. If a goal becomes overwhelming, break it down into even smaller goals!
Learn and adapt
Your plans don’t have to be set in stone. Apply the lessons you learn along the way to your goals and tailor them to suit you and your desired destination as you go. Knowing that plans don’t have to be set in stone and that you’re not ruining your chances by making a mistake can propel you forward through tough times.
Know that challenges are normal
All roads get a little rough. You will face challenges, and that is an integral part of moving toward what you want. Plan for those challenges and expect them to crop up every now and then!
· Create a backup
Anxious for everything to fall apart? Make a Backup plan. This way, you know that you are covered if things go wrong. Just make sure you don’t jump to your backup preemptively!
The so-called routine is vital to progress, but some people become so focused on the routine that they lose sight of why they started that routine in the first place. Recalling the humble beginnings of your journey is a great way to get up and get inspired again. Here are some ways to do it:
Remember your enthusiasm
You were probably excited about this goal when you started. Think of that excitement, the thrill of the next adventure, and the unconditional faith in your ability to achieve your dreams. What has changed? You are just as capable of doing it now, if not more! Put your roots back in perspective and remember those positive feelings.
Think about the accomplishments you want and visualize them. Think of all the beautiful things you want and how good it will feel to get there. If you give up now, you will never taste that success, so don’t give up! Keep working and making that visualization come true!
Think about the good
Struggles and challenges look like dark clouds, but rays of light always exist. Think of all the things you can be thankful for. Think about how strong you are, how lucky you are to have found a goal, and how each fight teaches you more and more to make your future brighter. With this kind of positive thinking, the things that might cause you to give up are transformed into valuable educational experiences.
Think of new reasons
You will change as a person over time, and that’s okay. In the beginning, what motivated you may no longer motivate you, or it may no longer be valid. It’s fine! Find new reasons why you want to go towards your goal! If your old reasons weren’t healthy, find healthy intrinsic reasons to move on.
But what happens if you try to remember why you are here and find that you no longer want that goal? What if you don’t have a good reason, or if all your senses have to do with sad things, like pleasing others? Know that it is also okay to evaluate your dreams and see if you want to continue them. If you decide that it is no longer your path, you will not give up, you are starting a new chapter in life.
4. Be kind to yourself
It’s easy to be hard on yourself when times are tough, expect too much from your mind and body, and be upset with yourself when you come up short. Ironically, this may be one of the reasons you want to give up in the first place!
If you only criticize yourself over and over again, how can you hope to stay inspired and succeed? You probably already know that being tough on others is not a great way to help them grow as people, so why apply that to yourself? Worse still, if you would never speak to others with the harshness that you use to yourself, what is the rationale behind that cruelty to yourself?
People often forget that things like self-pity are just as crucial as hard work. If you do not practice this kindness, you will lose your positive thinking and end up in a bad situation. Here are some ways to be kinder to yourself so that you can move on when you think about giving up:
Celebrate even small victories
Every victory is worth celebrating. If you do not allow yourself to appreciate your small victories, you are indirectly saying that small achievements are not good enough. You need to remember that all of your hits are amazing, and you need to pat yourself on the back for them!
If you punish yourself because you are not like another person, you are imposing unfair and irrational rules on yourself, and also on the other person! Each individual has their own journey and experiences that lend themselves to where they are today. You can’t possibly know everything others are going through, so focus on edifying yourself rather than comparing yourself to others.
Make your expectations realistic
If your expectations are too high, you are forcing yourself to impossible standards. No matter how hard you try, you are setting yourself up for failure, which is incredibly unfair to you. Make sure your expectations are difficult to achieve but not absolutely impossible!
Remember how far you have come
When you feel like giving up, it’s easy to forget how much you’ve grown. Most changes happen gradually, so you may not even notice your improvements until you stop and think about them. Reflect on your past achievements and efforts and, to begin with, realize how powerful you are for having come this far.
You are allowed to rest. No one can go full blast all the time. Every once in a while, recognize that the urge to give up can be a warning sign of burnout, and take time to relax. It’s okay to take breaks when you need them, and taking breaks may even have positive effects on your progress and motivation later on. Your brain is using your free time to continue developing itself and its cognitive function!
There are obstacles in every endeavor, potholes in every road, and unexpected circumstances in every journey. It’s natural sometimes to feel like giving up and wondering if it’s worth it. What matters is that you know how to move forward in a healthy and positive way, even when the thoughts of throwing in the towel arise. Do you need more help? Find support groups or mental health professionals!