Have you ever come across a traitor in the workplace? You’re there to earn a salary and do a good job, but some people can make life at work miserable. How do you handle a situation at work when your livelihood is at stake?
Since the beginning of time, people have experienced personality clashes. Do you remember the biblical story of Cain and Abel? His jealousy and resentment were so intense that Cain killed his brother. Of course, your office drama likely won’t reach that high.
But some people try their best to get ahead.
Spot the traitor
You can’t pack up and leave every time someone offends you, but you can better prepare yourself to deal with these types of colleagues. To thwart any office drama, you must be on the lookout for the traitor. Here are some ways to see through his actions and spot his mischievous nature.
1. Undermine you and your work
The traitor has one goal, and that is to look good. They have no problem undermining you or the work you do to look superior. If they can damage or weaken the opinion that others have of you, then they can set the stage to look good.
They can offer constant criticism of your work and try to show you their way of doing things. They’ll turn to the boss in no time to point out that you’re not doing your part or doing something wrong. In reality, they are just trying to cover up their mistakes.
2. Always asking you for help
It’s hard enough doing your assigned work, but if a person continually asks you to take care of their slack, they will be blaming you for handling your responsibilities. They may complain that they are having difficulties at home or health problems.
If you fall into this trap, you will fall when things are not done well or according to the specifications set by the supervisor. Then they’ll find some way to blame you. Handle this by telling them that you’re glad they think you’re useful, but you’re overwhelmed and can’t handle it anymore.
Never fall into the trap of say something to this person as they will use it against you in the end.
3. They are resentful and difficult to work with.
Sometimes it takes a little time to figure out who a traitor is and skillful at covering it up. In most cases, this person can be very dear and intelligent. However, they don’t really work well in a team environment.
This person takes care of number one. If you ever disturb them, you will walk on eggshells waiting for their retaliation. When dealing with these types of people, be sure to document everything.
They will use any opportunity they get to get back at you if it means covering their butt.
4. Spread rumors behind your back
This person is a traitor and a liar. They will take credit for the work you’ve done and won’t think twice about spreading false things about you. They are often jealous of others and their envious nature it makes them do things that are not scrupulous.
If you get a promotion that they feel they should have received, they will do anything to get back at you. Do not tolerate the liar. Bring any issues you have with them directly to management.
5. Part of the toxic rumor mill
Gossip is something that everyone participates in from time to time. Why is the chatter that happens around the water cooler at work always the juiciest? Note that there is a difference between having a trusted conversation with a colleague and then simply spreading toxic rumors among the masses.
How can you handle being the topic of discussion when you find out you are a target? It is best to go directly to the source and tell them what you heard and how you feel. Find the beginning of the rumor and let it settle. If they are still determined to talk about your business or spread falsehoods, let management take care of it.
6. Always sucking the boss
Why, whether you’re in elementary school or working at a multi-million dollar company, is it the killjoy that puts a bad taste in your mouth? They long to be the teacher’s pet and have a close relationship with the boss. The purpose is to get a raise, a higher position, or learn the ins and outs of the company.
This “brown nose” is classically found in any office in this country. Please don’t get in their way while they tease the boss, or they will stab you in the back and not think twice.
7. Taking credit for your work
Has someone ever stolen your ideas at work and then took all the credit? They may talk bad about you behind your back, but they smear your face for better advice. This is disrespectful and a stab in the back.
The way to combat this type of trader is to work closely together and report your new ideas and thoughts on any project to your supervisor. If they try to take credit for their work, the supervisor will quickly smell a rat. They obviously envy your skills and want to share that wealth of knowledge.
8. Demoralize the entire team by micromanaging
Nobody likes micromanaging, especially when he’s a co-worker. Is the person is a bit narcissistic and think that they are the only ones who know the right way to do things. They are watching over their shoulder and eager to report any wrongdoing to management.
Nobody likes a micromanager, but you expect this behavior from a supervisor and not from a co-worker. People tend to micromanage when they are afraid of losing control of something. First of all, you need to make sure that nothing you are doing needs to be managed.
Do you get to work on time and don’t miss any deadlines? You can counter this person who wants to stab you in the back by making sure you are always ahead of the game. If you build trust in your management team, they will have no problem, no matter what is reported to them.
Remember, a boss does not like someone who micromanages others, as they enter management territory.
9. You overreact when you feel stressed or challenged
Manipulative people who will stab you in the back are often the ones who overreact to the smallest things. Some may call them the office hothead because when things don’t go their way, they won’t hesitate to throw you under the bus. When stressed or challenged, you will see them turn on everyone around them to save face.
Dealing with the hothead in the office is never easy. They can get you into their disputes with their negative energy. Think a lot about them like a little boy having a tantrum. Since you know they have the potential to be dangerous, do not react at this point.
Once things have settled down, talk to them about the issues directly. Please don’t give them the satisfaction of being drawn into their tantrum. Wait until everything is over and clear things up.
10. They don’t work well with others
The classic traitor will not work well with others. As they strive to be the person that everyone likes; Eventually, their true colors come out. Another trick is that they will play the martyr of the office. This person wants to take on the most important workload to show that they are the one who works harder than everyone else.
Taking on a significant load can negatively affect productivity as they will use their workload to undermine other workers. They brag about how much they are doing while others do the bare minimum. This person has serious trust issues.
They want all the focus to be on them, but it should never be one person when working as a team. Don’t give them the satisfaction of making you feel less than when it comes to your job. If management agrees with your work, then don’t play on this person’s toxic attitude.
What you need to understand when dealing with manipulative and deceptive people is that there are almost always control problems that stem from insecurity. When they envy a position you have or the type of work you do, they will do everything in their power to make you look bad.
It is not personal, as they will act this way with anyone who crosses their path. They need to be validated and stand out for doing superior work. Don’t fall into their traps. If you see any of these red flags, you must correct them.
If talking to them gets you nowhere and causes a real problem, you need to bring management into the equation. Most likely, the management already knows everything about this person and that he is a traitor. They won’t be surprised at anything you have to say.
The goal is to stay out of the way of this toxic person. Go to work, do your work and go home. The less you get involved with it manipulative people there you better be.