Psychologists Explain Why Truth Equals Trust
The truth matters. It affects your relationships in your family, at work, and at school. Merriam Webster defines truth as a body of things, events and real events. When you tell someone the truth, you are honest with them. But it can be difficult to be honest because you don’t know that the person will react to the truth.
Kindness counts and goes hand in hand with revealing the truth
The truth should always be shared with kindness. Also, knowing the person you are talking to is important. If you just met someone, it may not be the right time to be honest with them about their bad breath. But with a close friend, you can comfortably tell him that you are upset with him about something. Of course, you should be nice even then. Intimidating or belittling someone and saying, “I’m just being honest” is honesty motivated by unkindness. You don’t want to help the person, but hurt them with your words.
What is the opposite of honesty?
The opposite of honesty is flattery or insincerity. Most people prefer to hear the truth rather than be flattered. Flattery is not motivated by a desire to tell the truth, but by buying some time. If someone compliments you, they are not as interested in you as they are. Truthful people are trustworthy friends. You know that they will always tell you the truth whatever happens because they want the best for you, even if it is difficult for you to listen.
How to be a sincere person
Here’s how to accept their lying ways and find a more honest approach.
“If an offense comes from the truth, it is better for the offense to come than for the truth to be hidden.” Thomas Hardy, Tess de los D’Urbervilles
1 – A truthful person honestly explains their struggles.
Learn to share your struggles and weaknesses with people. Sharing your struggles makes you seem like a normal person. Without realizing it, it may seem like you have it all together. When you share the difficult things you are trying to solve, people can relate to you. But honesty must be shared without the wrong reasons. Some wrong reasons to share your struggles openly could be to get the following results:
- Make people feel sorry for you.
- Get someone to do something for you.
- Draw attention to yourself
- Unloading anger with someone
This is just complaining instead of honestly sharing about your life. People get tired of hearing people complain, so check your motives before you start blogging about your hard day at home with the kids. Rather try to share, but draw something positive out of it, something you have learned or how you suddenly understood yourself better from the experience. This not only allows you to be honest, but it also helps the people you share with.
2 – The actions of a truthful person must match the words.
If you tell someone, you are their good friend. So your actions should show that this is true. You will text, call, and hang out with them. If you ignore them, they will feel that you were not honest with them. When actions and words don’t line up, you are considered dishonest and untrustworthy. People will doubt that you are sincere if you are not authentic.
3 – A truthful person can accept and give constructive criticism.
Criticism is a way of telling the truth. People are often afraid of being criticized for fear of being judged. But receiving constructive feedback is not judgment. It is not to hurt you, but to help you grow. Some jobs, like writing, require you to learn to listen to constructive criticism.
Psychological studies concludes that some people lie due to negative thoughts, such as emotions based on fear or guilt.
Here are some tips for receiving constructive criticism.
- Learn to Review Reviews – Not everything someone shares with you will be accurate. But it would help if you realized that there is probably a grain of truth in what they share. Look for those little grains of truth and apply them to your life so that it can improve or grow.
- Thank the person for being honest with you – it’s not easy to share constructive criticism. It is tempting to tell people what they want to hear, rather than being honest. If you have someone who shares constructive criticism with you, it is a gift.
- Learn to have thick skin: The more you experience constructive criticism, the better you will accept it without feeling devastated. Know that the person is trying to help you. They are pointing out your weak areas so you can grow and improve.
- Don’t listen to people who hate: of course, some people are not trying to help you, but want to hurt you. Don’t take it seriously when someone tries to hurt you on purpose.
- Learn to give constructive criticism honestly and kindly: You will be a valuable friend to those around you if you learn to share honest and constructive criticism with them. They will know that they can trust you to be totally honest with them.
4 – A truthful person speaks honestly.
Seek to be honest with people. It’s okay to say, “I felt left out because you guys didn’t call me to join everyone after work.” You don’t have to play the victim, but be honest about your disappointment. A psychological one study found that many people are not comfortable with this kind of honesty. They have learned to hide their true feelings and even justify them by saying, “I don’t want to hurt people’s feelings by telling them how I really feel. If you can be honest without being manipulative or cruel, that’s being a sincere person.
You may have learned to lie about your true feelings in childhood. Maybe your parents got mad at you when you told Aunt Edna that you didn’t like the clown sweater she knitted for you. Parents often misinterpret their children’s honesty as rude. But it is important to teach your children to speak the truth with kindness. They can at least be grateful. One mother taught her children to say, “Thank you for doing this. You must have worked hard. ”Being thankful and thankful for something is sincere honesty.
Why don’t you tell the truth?
We all lie from time to time, but if you lie a lot, there could be a few reasons why you do. See if any of these hit you close to home.
You feel like it’s not worth knowing.
Because of this, you embellish the truth a bit to present yourself as smarter, stronger, and more successful than you are. You may feel that if people really knew what you are like, they wouldn’t be impressed.
You are afraid of being judged.
You are afraid of people’s bad opinions about you. You want to please your boss, so you always say yes to extra work, but tell your co-workers how much you dislike the boss, so they don’t think you’re cheating on your boss. It is a tangled network to keep lying, to avoid people’s bad opinions about you.
Research confirms that many people lie to cope with peer pressure or to increase self-esteem.
Your fear of being rejected
You feel the need to please everyone and accept yourself. You exaggerate, brag, and brag to please. You are the clown at work or at school. You are afraid that people will not like your true self, so you hide.
Vulnerability is scary
To be honest, it’s hard to really be yourself with people. You may feel too vulnerable and out of control when you are honest. Or maybe you were hurt in the past for being vulnerable, so you feel like it’s too dangerous. You may lack wisdom in whom to trust. If you made mistakes and thought you could trust untrustworthy people, it can cause you to back down and refuse to be honest with anyone.
How to start being honest and trustworthy
There’s no better time like now to start a new season than being honest. It can change your life and that of those around you when you start to be an honest person. Here are some simple tips to start your honest journey.
1 – Be honest with yourself.
Tell yourself the truth. If you are not honest with yourself, you will not be with others. It’s okay not to be the prettiest, smartest, and most successful person at work or school. You have things to give, but don’t evaluate your worth based on what you think others want. Try saying things like
“I am ___________ and it is okay, because I am a worthy person.”
“I’m not good at _______________ and that’s okay.
“I can never ______________, but there are many other things I can do.”
2 – Stop the lie when it starts.
If you are in the habit of lying about your family, don’t lie when you talk about them. Begin to Tell the truth About them.
3 – Do not try to be anyone but yourself
Social media bombards you with how you should look, dress, and act. It’s easy to compare yourself to celebrities, bloggers, and other seemingly successful people. You may be tempted to try to look or act like them instead of being yourself.
4 – Start sharing your feelings with people.
Start to open up about your feelings. If you are having a difficult day at work, tell your coworker. It’s okay to feel depressed or overwhelmed at times. Start small and share with people you can trust. Over time, you will begin to be honest about your feelings without fear.
5 – See a therapist if necessary
If you feel like you have to lie, it may be time to see a counselor or therapist to help you break the habit.
Final thoughts on why telling the truth equals trust
Truth equals dependability in the eyes of your family, friends, and co-workers. Today, why not start telling the truth to yourself and others so that you can enjoy a new freedom? There is no other way around it: to be trustworthy, you have to tell the truth.