A loving father is a stellar example of what it is like to be blissfully color-blind, and he hopes his story can inspire everyone to understand that transracial adoption is so natural when the father is black and the child is white. (A combination that has produced too many negative inferences for this dad to count.)
A 2017 study found that the number of white children in foster care in the US is increasing, but many black parents are still hesitant to adopt them. That’s not the case with Peter Mutabazi, whom GNN readers met in July after became a “forever father” to Anthony, a white teenager abandoned in a North Carolina hospital a few years earlier.
Peter says, “The differences in my family’s skin may be the first thing people notice today, but I hope that over time what is most notable about us and all transracial families will be love, joy, and happiness. connection we share. “
You know what it feels like to be a child who faces abandonment and fear. He fled an abusive home at age 11 in Africa and became a street child in the Ugandan capital. But later he was taken in in his teens by a complete stranger who became a mentor and changed his life.
“I couldn’t ignore my story, the opportunities strangers had given me… and I know how many children have no one. I know what it feels like without dreams, without hope. “
Peter knew that teens had lower adoption rates than younger children, and they often wait longer to be adopted (if they ever do), putting them at much greater risk of a troubled future, for which became a licensed foster parent and arranged 12 different placements over the years. Then she met Anthony.
Immediately the boy announced: “They told me that when I was eleven I could choose who my father was, and I would choose you.” That gave Peter the confidence to believe that he could be a great father, even though he had never had one of his own.
In 2019, Peter officially adopted the smart young man with the whips.
A new addition in 2021
While Peter and his son were enjoying a bit of relaxation over the holidays, Tony came up with a challenging idea.
“I think maybe we should reach out to a teenager and give him a home.”
“I already have a teenager,” Peter replied. But, reflecting on 2020, she also recalled how she had the opportunity to advocate for teen adoption and parenting with AdoptUSKids.
After the conversation, Serendipity knocked on the door when a social worker knocked and told Peter that there was a young teenager who needed a foster home, and he knew he couldn’t ignore the timing of it all.
“He is almost 17 years old, with only one year left in foster care to be able to help him with the life skills he needs, whether it be to obtain a driver’s license, to support him with his education or to guide him in a career.”
Peter and Anthony recently welcomed Kai into their home.
While many people focus on what can go wrong, Peter focuses on the benefits and rewards of giving a teenager a chance, as well as the opportunity he was given.
“Above all, I can give you the love and attention you deserve. To let you know you belong. “
The family now makes videos, having founded Now i’m known so that even more children and adolescents feel seen and heard. Follow her antics on YouTube—And take a look at the Simba family puppy-inspired ‘support dogs’ plush toys, which comes with a printed bandana with affirmation phrases to realize their full potential. For every adorable plush sold, donate one to a child who also needs love, more than 500, so far.
GET TOGETHER Peter and ‘Tony’ in this lovely video …
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