Humor is a lovely thing and it can change the whole mood in a room. It makes you feel happier, improves your outlook on life, and attracts other people with you.
In relationships, that kind of power in simple, genuine action is essential. However, it is relatively common for couples to decrease mood the longer they are together. Don’t let that happen to your love life!
Here are four ways to keep the humor alive in relationships.
1. Create fun situations
The easiest and most obvious way to start creating humor in your relationships is by creating situations where comedy is natural. This allows them to get into the habit of laughing together and with each other! Studies have shown that couples who laugh together often enjoy more positive relationships, better relationship satisfaction, and more overall happiness. Here are some ways to create fun situations that keep you in the mood!
Comedy specials are designed to make you laugh! They’re all laugh-out-loud giggles and are great for date nights. You can even go to comedy clubs and shows to see stand-up artists work their magic live. Maybe you will find more comedians that you love and can see them there!
Watch funny shows
Most couples enjoy watching shows together, and some even have “special” or “reserved” shows that they don’t watch without their partner. Why not make one of them fun? Find a good show that you are so interested in watching excessively and that has comic elements. You’ll get the union of a shared plot investment and an extra laugh to boot!
Find a common area
It is not unusual for partners to have different senses of humor. Sometimes it takes a while to find things that make you both laugh. It’s okay to have to work to find comedy and humor that you can enjoy together! Once you find those extraordinary things that make you laugh or reach the point of crying, you will know that you can always go back to these things and enjoy them together.
2. Links through humor
Humor plays a role in a relationship from the beginning. Making each other laugh in a first meeting makes both parties feel more attractive to each other – often more than any physical attractiveness that may also be at stake. Humor shows compatibility, resourcefulness, positive thinking, compassion, funny thoughts, intelligence … so many different factors rolled into one!
That is why humor remains significant in the long run. It’s a reminder of what you love about each other and it’s a great way to bond and bond. Here are some ways to bond in a relationship while keeping the humor alive:
· Laugh together
Laughing genuinely together is a fundamental way to bond with anyone, not just a partner. Laughter releases the feel-good endorphin hormone in your mind and body, boosting your positive thinking and make you feel closer to the person you are laughing with.
Create inside jokes
There are few things more connected in a relationship than the secret knowledge that only the two of you share. Inside jokes have that magic plus the benefits of accompanying humor. It’s like having a cute little secret, but better, and it’s a testament to the fact that in life, you are a team.
Plan unique and creative dates
There is nothing wrong with an elegant dinner or a simple trip to the movies, but it also has value to spice it up from time to time. Some of your quotes should be unique! What does this have to do with humor? Well, there aren’t many opportunities to laugh at a particular restaurant where you’re dressed to the nines. So instead, go to a museum and point out the fun details of the art. Take a class together and laugh, and you will learn. Observe people and make jokes about the fashion senses. You don’t even need to be actively trying to find humor in creative dating – fun usually comes on its own in these situations!
3. Use it in conflict management
When tensions rise, humor can dissipate them and remind you and your partner that you love each other. Help both parties see situations with a little more open-mindedness and a little less anger. You take yourself less seriously and can approach without being defensive or negativity when you can find humor in a situation. This is because:
Humor makes things spontaneous
You are not stuck in conventional behavior or ways of thinking, so you view the conflict from a different perspective and can search for more out-of-the-box solutions.
Humor raises your inhibitions
You can express yourself in a genuine but less aggressive way when there is humor in a conflict. Your deepest feelings will feel more comfortable being exposed because you don’t feel judged or overly vulnerable to an intimidating degree.
Humor opens you up to criticism
You listen and interpret things less seriously when you are in the mood. This allows you to hear genuine criticism about your actions or behavior without getting defensive, as it is less painful to listen.
Humor puts a brake on the struggle for power
In many conflicts, both parties fight for “power”, specifically to be heard or seen as the “right” person. You will be able to see things with new perspectives and reconnect with your partner if those chains do not bind you.
Research has indicated that humor and positive thinking they are good at conflict resolution, but the trick is to learn how to do it right. If you don’t have a humorous vibe in your relationship yet, using humor to defuse tension may not be as helpful to begin with. But beyond that, here are some tips for using humor in conflict management:
It is valid and fair to use humor as a general coping mechanism, but it should not be a substitute for real emotions. It would be helpful if you used humor as a way to make it easier for you to express your more complex feelings, not as a way to deny that you have those feelings at all.
You don’t need to be a genius comedian
It is common for people to feel too intimidated by the idea of rejection or silly to want to test humor in conflict situations. Remember, you are not a standing teacher. You are a person who tries to find a loving ground in common with your partner. You love and trust your partner, so trust that they won’t judge you for a bad joke. They may find it even funnier when your comedy is terrible!
Make sure your partner participates in the joke
Your partner has to find a funny situation like you for humor to be a viable tool. You want to laugh with your partner, not with her. So if your partner doesn’t find anything comical about the situation and doesn’t engage with an attempt at humor, stop and focus on a different approach.
Improve your smart mood
Smart humor means being empathetic, emotionally intelligent and aware of you and your partner. Notice if your partner is uncomfortable through your non-verbal cues. Avoid using humor when it is clear that the situation is too complicated or heartfelt for that. Never be too harsh or cruel with humor as a shield if you are not sure if you are capable of having a happy and intelligent frame of mind yet. Practice first in non-conflict situations until you’ve honed the skill!
4. Don’t be afraid to make a fool of yourself
We all have silly sides that we would be too embarrassed to show to most people. But your partner is probably one of the closest people you have! If you live with them, you probably already know them at least almost as much as they know themselves, and they know the same about you.
So why worry about being silly? A person you love would not judge you for letting go and wasting time. Making a fool of yourself is one of the funniest ways to keep the humor alive! Here are some great ways to do this:
Let your strange streak fly! Dance like a monkey. Jump like a child. Make faces to express your feelings. He sings horribly out of tune. Do all those things that are completely insane and let your partner see how much fun you can be! Humor can’t die when you both create it regularly!
Make that risky joke
Think about the most “inappropriate” types of humor you enjoy. Toilet humor? Crude humor? Black mood? If your partner also likes this type of humor, show your love for each other by laughing this way by making jokes and other comedic acts about it. He tells both of you not to take life so seriously and to find joy and happiness in the things that only both of you can share. It’s also a very vulnerable type of humor, which raises bonding levels!
Use humor in the bedroom
People often paint intimate activities as a sacred act, but let’s face it: it’s nothing like books and movies! Studies show that humor can create a positive and a satisfying intimate life. Sometimes things get weird in the bedroom. Learn to laugh at it and you will be rewarded!
Give a gag gift
There is absolutely nothing wrong with a sweet bouquet or card. Still, prank gifts are fun and add some variety to the generic romance that most standard offerings provide. They can be just about anything from a simple joke card to something bought at a novelty store. If you can make your partner laugh, it’s worth a try; after all, laughter can also be a gift. (Remember, when it comes to a gift for an important event like an anniversary or birthday, it is probably a good idea to get a “real” gift along with the joke gift.)
Making fun of your partner
Lighthearted jokes are a beautiful way to develop humorous jokes in your relationship. Learn to tease your partner in a way that you enjoy and don’t feel uncomfortable. Remember what we said about smart humor? That applies here!
Humor, well used, is a powerful tool that can bring light and joy to a relationship. So many relationships start in a good mood that it would be a shame to lose it, so do what you can to keep the spirit alive in yours!