No matter where you go, you are surrounded by emotional energy. The ways we connect with others have a profound effect on us. This means that it is important to choose wisely when spending a significant amount of time with friends, family, or romantic interests. Each person brings a unique energy to a relationship, but the more positive the energy, the better. When you are around someone who makes you feel good, you gain a sense of trust, feel happier throughout the day, and look forward to seeing that person again. A pessimistic person has the exact opposite impact.
When most of the people around you emit negative energy, you run the risk of adopting that negative energy. This can affect your outlook on life and tends to change the way you treat people. When you don’t have enough positive energy in your life, it can increase your chances of depression and anxiety.
Sometimes the negative traits present in the personality of your friend or family member can be difficult to detect. It may not always be easy to spot that someone you love is deeply negative. But after a while, you will begin to see and feel the difference in your own energy.
15 actions that show someone is pessimistic
You need to protect your energy and make sure to spread positivity no matter where you go. So here are 15 behaviors that will help you identify a pessimistic person.
Pessimistic people have a hard time seeing the good in any circumstance. This happens even in happy or positive situations. If you notice that someone close to you can never really be happy “in the moment,” no matter how optimistic the situation is, you won’t be able to convince them to take another point of view. Their thoughts are programmed to see the bad in everything, and if you spend too much time with them, you will find that you will not enjoy the things you used to love.
2. Always playing the victim
Pessimistic people always paint themselves as the victimeven in situations where they have inflicted pain on others. Pessimists believe that bad things are destined to happen to them, which means that they will always believe that they are the victim, even if they are responsible for the situation they are in.
3. Use people
Pessimistic people will generally only pay attention to you when it benefits them. If they need you to give them money, do them a favor, or want emotional support, they will surely contact you and stay in touch. However, when they don’t need you, they will pretend you don’t exist, especially when you need them for support and encouragement. If they decide to show you love or concern, they will only do so if they feel like they will be rewarded with validation or gifts.
4. Never make time for relationships
If you have a friend or loved one who is pessimistic, you may find that they will always make excuses when you need something. They don’t want to spend any of their emotional energy loving and supporting you, but I hope you are always there for them. When you can’t drop everything to be by their side, they may sulk or pout to make you feel guilty. Be wary of friends and loved ones who only want to hang out with you when their schedule allows, but don’t take your time into account.
5. Being emotionally draining
Spending time with the people you love should be a satisfying and rewarding experience. However, when you interact with a pessimistic person, you may feel depressed, exhausted, or anxious when you are with them or immediately after supporting their presence. Negative energy It can take your life and prevent you from having a healthy outlook on life.
6. Always complaining
A person who is a pessimistic he rarely has anything good to say. No matter what is happening, they will look for something to disapprove of. If you buy them a gift, they complain that it is the wrong color or size. If the weather is sunny and the sky is clear, they will complain about the heat. This type of person will also complain about parts of your personality and accuse you of not being a good friend / partner / family member.
7. Be a gossip
It is not always bad to exchange information with your friends. But pessimistic people will find a way to say cruel or hurtful things about someone they say is a friend. This will try to get you involved in these lewd conversations, and you may get angry when you don’t want to gossip with them. Keep in mind that if someone wants to gossip with you, they will also do so when you are not around.
No matter what you do or how you try to make a pessimistic person comfortable, they will never be satisfied. Nothing you do is good enough and these people often attack parts of your appearance or personality to undermine your confidence. If they find something about you that they don’t like, they will try to remove or change it, which can affect your self-esteem.
9. Spread feelings of negativity
If you notice that you start to feel more negative energy in your own life, it could be the result of being around someone who is pessimistic too often. If you naturally have a positive and optimistic demeanor, but find that you are sad and anxious more often than usual, it is likely because pessimism is spreading. This behavior could be a sign that you should limit your time with negative people in your life as much as possible.
10. Show signs of envy
Whether we want to admit it or not, we all experience feelings of jealousy at some point. However, the envy of a pessimistic person will make it impossible for them to congratulate you or be happy for you, even if you have achieved a great milestone or the negative person has great things in their own life. When someone is jealous of you, they will try to make you feel bad about your achievements to prevent you from appreciating them.
11. Tense your positive relationships
If you let pessimism get to you, you will sadly notice that your relationships will suffer. If you notice that significant relationships in your life begin to suffer because your friends or loved ones are pulling away from you, you could be giving off negative energy.
12. Be a “realist”
Some people who fight pessimism think they are realistic seeing the world in a negative way. They fear being disappointed, so they feel that if they always expect the worst, they won’t have to go through the emotional anguish of getting their hopes up for nothing. It is important to maintain balance in our thinking, but always thinking that something bad is going to happen has a negative effect on the mind and body. This mindset also avoids enjoying life to the fullest.
13. The inability to be spontaneous
When people have a mindset rooted in pessimism, they cannot do things without planning first. If they can’t control most of the situation, they are sure something is going to go wrong. While planning and organizing are notable traits, it’s important to enjoy life and do the unexpected from time to time to create beautiful memories.
14. Worrying too much
If you have a friend or family member who cares about your concerns, you may avoid telling them certain things. After all, if you are already worried or nervous about something, you don’t want that worrying energy to transfer to you and make the problem worse on your mind. On the other hand, if you have interesting news to share, you can avoid telling the worried in your life because you don’t want to walk away from the conversation feeling discouraged or hopeless. Since pessimism makes it difficult or sometimes impossible to see the good in something, people with this trait may appear to be looking out for you initially. However, at the end of the conversation, it’s easy to see that they are projecting their concerns onto you.
15. Never trust people
It is advisable to “go slow” when starting a new relationship. There are certain things that you should not reveal to anyone about your personality or your past until you have established a bond of trust with that person. If you have a loved one who is constantly negative, it will be negative to reach a place where they can trust you, even if you have done nothing wrong. However, this person will probably want to know everything about you so they can distinguish your personality and find “reasons” why they cannot get close to you.
While you may not be able to do anything to make your loved one aware of your pessimism, knowing the signs to look for can help you avoid living with negative energy and spreading it to others.