Wouldn’t it be a lifesaver if all the good people in the world had halos and those with bad intentions had horns? It would be much easier to distinguish who you would allow into your life and who you would avoid. Unfortunately, that’s not an option, and you need to be on the lookout for red flags and use your intuition to make decisions in your inner circle.
From the beginning, the world has had a diverse mix of good and bad people. Sometimes good people make serious mistakes, and even the most morally corrupt people can do a random act of kindness. No one enters a personal or professional relationship to be taken advantage of or burned.
Maybe you are like many people who think there is something good in everyone and will take a chance. On the contrary, you may have survived a toxic relationship that led you to build a wall of defense and mistrust. How can you tell if a colleague or new love interest doesn’t mean well?
No one is perfect and anyone can make a bad decision that unintentionally hurts someone. The difference in character is seen when the wrong person apologizes and makes amends, while the toxic individual tries to blame you.
Trusting your career or love life to other people is a gamble. Some people may seem amazing at first until you realize that they are actually snakes. Its toxicity can bite you before it’s too late.
10 warning signs that a person has bad intentions
You may not see halos or horns to tell the good guys from the bad guys, but there are clues. Some of them may be more subtle than others. Here are ten ways you can identify people who don’t care about your best interests.
Anyone who says they have never lied is not being honest. Who hasn’t told a white lie or spread the truth a bit to save face or avoid hurting someone? However, it is a red flag if a colleague or new love interest is a pathological liar. When everything that comes out of your mouth is a lie, and you are constantly trapping them in falsehoods, rest assured that there are more lies behind them.
I miss it from pathological liars is that they will lie about the most insignificant things by lying. To hide their growing pile of falsehoods, they must speak more falsehoods. You may get a meaningful clue if you hear them tell your friends and family things that you know are not accurate.
2. They enjoy other people’s pain
Someone who derives pleasure from other suffering people will surely have dark psychological problems. If they are rolling with laughter after you fell down the stairs or cut your finger, you are dealing with a toxic person. These types of characters also have a lot of fun when others make painful mistakes or have a series of misfortunes.
Toxic people are often bitter and jealous of the world. They see happy and prosperous people as the enemy that causes their misery. When these perceived enemies have a crisis, the toxic person is often proud and glad that their misfortune is avenged.
3. They are cruel to animals
Whether it’s a beloved pet or cattle grazing in the meadow, there is no excuse for cruelty to animals. Countless studies of incarcerated killers show a common link to animal brutality that transforms human abuse and homicide.
Anyone who could be sadistic enough to harm or torture a defenseless animal would have no qualms about hurting a human. How do they treat pets or animals in the wild that they come across? Do they happily step on the car accelerator to kill an innocent creature crossing the street?
The first sign of animal cruelty or neglect should be enough for you to stay away from this person and report it to authorities.
4. They give bad vibes
Although science cannot explain how it works, human intuition is a powerful survival instinct. Have you ever been around people who left you with a strange impression? Maybe it was nothing apparent, but his instincts told him to “be careful.”
How do they make you feel when you are together? Do you feel natural and relaxed, or does their presence make you tense? When they touch you, do you feel butterflies in your stomach or are you overwhelmed by the weirdness?
Do yourself a favor and trust your intuition when in doubt about someone’s character. Some of your trusted friends may have the same vibes. Toxic people take advantage of those who are gullible, so listen to your instincts and steer clear of toxicity and bad intentions.
Remember the immortal words of Shakespeare that many truths are told in jest. Almost everyone loves people who have a good sense of humor. Even some gentle teasing is fine if it’s between two close people.
However, toxic people often make rude and hurtful comments while ending them with a “just kidding.” It is unacceptable for someone to demean you and hurt you under the guise of a joke. The same goes for back-turned compliments that add even more humiliation.
These thugs use wicked humor in their ill intentions to control and demean others.
6. They show no remorse or guilt
While a sociopath is usually someone who has inappropriate emotions in public before thinking, the evil intentions of a psychopath are planned. Suppose you work with someone or have a love interest who lacks empathy, you better be vigilant. Could be a classic psycho that you can deliberately hurt someone without any remorse or guilt.
Not only are people like these toxic in a relationship, they can also be dangerous. A combination of psychopathy and another serious mental illness could create a perfect storm for a homicidal person. At the first hint of ruthless behavior, you should run.
7. Are blatantly sexist or racist
Some toxic people don’t even try to hide their hateful sexist or racist attitudes. They may try to justify their unpleasant opinions by twisting religious texts. You can never be happy when a person makes inappropriate hate speech about gender or race.
Keep your distance from people with bad intentions who prosper creating an atmosphere of ignorance, hatred and intolerance. Refuse to be a part of their harmful war against individuals who are different. These people are their worst enemies and you don’t need their company.
8. Most people avoid them
Over time, toxic people with bad intentions are discovered and rejected. Like most people, you probably have an unpleasant relative that everyone avoids at family gatherings. Fortunately, you don’t need to put up with a loud and vulgar older guy, but once a year.
You will find that many toxic people burn bridges with others in a series of broken relationships. They may not have many friends or family who want to be around them. While many people are loners due to their preferences, toxic people are generally abandoned due to their bad intentions.
9. They are users
Beware of toxic people who only use others for profit and then throw them aside. If you have a potential love interest, is the new relationship mutual or one-sided? Are you generous with your time and money, but your kindness is never returned?
The classic case of a person with bad intentions is the one who plays on your sympathies. They would like you to ignore their toxic and unacceptable behavior, and they will use the blame on you. If you don’t break ties, they will drain you physically, mentally, spiritually, and financially.
10. They are manipulative
People with bad intentions are often master manipulators. Often times, they will turn on gas to their partners so they can be in control. They may subtly try to make you doubt yourself while blaming you.
It won’t be long and you will have serious self-confidence and sanity issues. They may be accepted initially, but you should be on the lookout for subtle clues that they are trying to manipulate you. Maybe they will try to make you look bad in front of your family and friends. Someone who loves you doesn’t need to control your life.
One of the biggest mistakes people make in a toxic relationship is sticking around to change the toxic person. Not only is this plan unrealistic, it can backfire and keep you shackled into a relationship that is painful and possibly dangerous.
Even if they don’t show all ten warning signs, one should be enough to get your attention.
You should never be a part of someone’s evil personality or bad intentions. Let these red flags be a warning telling you not to get involved. When you look for the signs of toxic people and follow your instincts, you can save yourself a lot of anguish and possibly your own life. You don’t need the drama or the toxicity.