The word antisocial is used a lot today. When you use it to describe a coworker or someone at school, it generally means that they lack good social skills or don’t know how to relate to other people. But antisocial behavior is something else entirely. This type of behavior involves intimidation and aggressiveness. So how do you know someone is antisocial? Here are 10 red flags that indicate someone is truly antisocial.
What is the difference between antisocial and antisocial?
It is important to understand the meaning of the word when you use it. For example, there is a lot of confusion about the word “antisocial”. If a person avoids being around other people or is uncomfortable in social settings, they may be labeled “antisocial,” but a better word to describe their behavior is “antisocial.” This is because antisocial and antisocial are not synonymous. When someone displays antisocial behavior, it has a totally different meaning. Here is the meaning of the words: antisocial and antisocial.
This means that a person struggles with social anxieties and fear of not pleasing others. They may have been insulted or worried that they will say or do the wrong thing when they are around people.
People who display antisocial behavior may display public antisocial behavior which is overtly aggressive behavior or private antisocial behavior in which they show their aggression by acting against the rules or the law. Characteristics of antisocial behavior include:
- Not cooperating with the rules
- Drugs abuse
- Alcohol abuse
- High risk behavior
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines antisocial as, “aversion to the society of others, hostile or harmful to organized society and that is marked by behavior that is sharply debated from the social norm.”
Red flags that reveal someone is antisocial
Keep your eyes open for these red flags.
1 – Contempt for good and evil
Most people try to obey law to avoid getting into trouble. Driving over the speed limit can be as risky as it can be when it comes to breaking the law in your life. But people with antisocial behavior have a strange view of the law, assuming the rules don’t apply to them. Their disregard for authorities and the law makes them dangerous to themselves and to those around them. They don’t mind breaking the laws to get what they want. Besides this, they don’t care how their lawlessness will affect others. If you know someone who displays this behavior, you may want to distance yourself from them to protect yourself from their actions.
2 – Lie or deception for personal gain
Another red flag to be aware of someone with antisocial behavior is lying. They can be very convincing in their lies, to the point that people believe them. Even if they get caught, they will lie about their lies to confuse people. They can point fingers at those who accuse them, even accusing them of lying.
3 – Manipulate others
The the antisocial person can be very manipulative to get something they want. They manipulate people with attractive words and gestures. If you don’t respond to their manipulation, they will get angry and threaten you. It is a kind of dark and twisted charm that focuses on itself and does not take into account the people around them.
4 – Arrogance
Another red flag of someone who is antisocial is the propensity for arrogant behavior towards other people. They feel superior to other people who use put-downs, harassment, and other intimidating behavior to show that they are better than you. They expect people to line up and do what they want. If you don’t do what they want, they get angry and sometimes violent. They justify their behavior and don’t take into account how their actions affect others.
5 – Risky behavior
Antisocial behavior shows itself in taking risks that can put others at risk. These people are prone to drug and alcohol abuse, unsafe sex, and dangerous hobbies. They also have little regard for their own health and the safety of others.
They can look down on anyone who challenges their risk taking, resorting to bullying, or threats if someone tries to intervene. From time to time, they will decide that the risk is greater than they want to take if you threaten something that is important to them. They may shy away from risky behavior, but this is usually on their own terms and not because someone has tried to stop their behavior.
People with antisocial personality disorder tend to be very charming. They use their charm to exploit people, often taking advantage of caring people. They use sweet words to get what they want, but if you don’t agree with what they want, they will quickly turn on you, get angry, and become aggressive. They are good at using people and they use their charm with false humility to manipulate people into doing whatever they want at work, school, or at home.
7 – Violence
Violent behavior is a red flag that someone is antisocial behavior. They may not get physical, but they use aggressive language to intimidate people. They can be cruel and tease people no matter how their words affect people. In addition to being hostile themselves, they can misinterpret the behavior of others as hostile. It is difficult to reason with antisocial people because they feel justified in their behavior. If you try to reason with them, they will get defensive and aggressive. They don’t know how to talk about things or compromise unless it’s for their own good.
8 – Lack of ability to empathize with others
They lack remorse for hurting people or animals. Lack of empathy is easy to overlook. Sometimes people seem sarcastic or sarcastic, so you assume it’s their sense of humor, but the antisocial behavior runs deeper. They do not feel sad about situations or things that they do. Sometimes they even laugh at it, justifying their behavior. They are callous and hard-hearted. Antisocial people often commit crimes such as murder, without remorse or fear of consequences. Studies show that approximately 35% of people in prison have antisocial behavior.
9 – Blameshifting
A big red flag of antisocial behavior is shifting the blame all the time. An antisocial person may be surprised if he points out something he did wrong. They will defend themselves, refusing to take responsibility for their own actions. Antisocial behavior often overlaps with narcissistic behavior. The two have a lot in common, especially the inability to take responsibility for actions.
10 – I can’t finish a job
Those who have antisocial behavior cannot learn from their mistakes because they never admit that they have made a mistake. They have difficulty meeting the deadline. They will brag about everything they’ve done when they haven’t actually done their job or missed financial deadlines as promised. If they are called for not finishing something, they will change it by blaming someone else. This can make them unable to keep a job for long. This also affects their relationships, as they are not trustworthy and cannot be depended on to do what they say.
What Causes Antisocial Behavior?
Researchers are not entirely sure what causes antisocial behavior. It is difficult to know why some people develop antisocial behavior and others do not, but there are several factors that contribute to this type of behavior. Those at risk of developing antisocial behavior generally include those who:
- Had parents with antisocial behavior
- Parents who suffered drug or alcohol abuse
- An unstable home environment
- Corporal punishment
- Interruption in your parents’ lives, such as divorce, separation, or death
- Parents who suffered from psychiatric disorders, especially mothers who have depression
- Children growing up in poverty
Studies found that children who are exposed to media violence in movies, video games, have a higher risk of antisocial behavior.
What should you do if someone shows antisocial behavior?
You may know someone who shows signs of antisocial behavior. If you think you know someone with this condition, here are some things you can do.
Recognize the signs:
If they show some or all of the ten things listed, it is very likely that they have this disorder. It’s easy to get used to their behavior, but it’s important to step back and acknowledge that they have a problem.
Seek treatment: If you have a close enough relationship with the person, you may want to encourage them to seek help. They may not like you suggesting this, but sometimes if a loved one brings it up, the person with antisocial behavior will receive treatment. If the person refuses to seek help and blames you for their behavior, it may be time to take the next step.
Seek professional help:
If someone you love shows antisocial behavior and refuses to help, you may need to get court-ordered treatment for that person. This is a long process and generally causes the person to become more aggressive, taking even more risks than before.
If you work with someone with antisocial behavior, you may be better off distancing yourself from them. They may have tried to charm you, and you may have fallen in love with their manipulative behavior of playing the victim. Stay away from them and don’t do what they want. Protect yourself and your reputation by not getting involved with them.
It’s easy to describe yourself as antisocial when you really mean that you struggle to be antisocial. They are totally different words and antisocial behavior is really dangerous and against all authorities of the law. These red flags are indicative of someone with antisocial behavior. Take note of them if you know someone who introduces themselves this way. You may need to make a decision about how to relate to them for your own protection.