When strolling through the rolling fields of life, some people are like lambs, while others tend to look more like goats. While the lambs peacefully chew the green grass, the goats often complain about the quality of their food. Goats represent those who struggle with chronic complaints and are not always the easiest people to deal with.
Why Chronic Complaints Will Ruin Your Relationships
When you give positive statements to “goats”, they are quick to say, “Yes, but …” and express their criticism. These perpetually crashing goats ruin the entire environment at home, work, and dating with their negative and depressing comments. If you are in one of these toxic relationships, you will succumb to negative influence or will exit the relationship.
A study of the Psychoanalytic review says some people can get addicted to negativity. As with other psychological and physical addictions, relationships are often strained and broken.
Here are ten reasons why a grumpy attitude can ruin any relationship.
Remember the old saying that no one likes a spoilsport? Think of a person that everyone seems to avoid. The reason may be that your chronic complaints are driving others away.
When you are around someone who constantly complains about something, you will notice that your mood soon fades. If all your other friends hear the miserable moans, who will want to celebrate and have a good time?
When you walk into the room, do people tend to scatter or find an excuse to get away from you? Maybe it’s time to check your attitude and listen to the words that come out of your mouth. You may be smothering the positive vibes with your moody fault finding.
2. Decrease your gratitude
Most parents tell their children that they cannot expect the Universe to give them anything else in life if they are not grateful for its blessings. When was the last time you felt deep gratitude for all the prosperity you enjoy? According to a study published by Edgemont Psychiatry, gratitude can positively affect your overall well-being.
Does the lack of appreciation and gratitude result in a state of chronic complaints? Once you start counting your blessings, you will soon find that your burdens are exceeded. One of the best ways to increase your grateful spirit is to maintain a gratitude journal.
3. Complaining keeps you stuck in the past
As you analyze your thought patterns and conversations, try to notice the verb tenses. Are your conversations generally related to the past? Even when you’ve had a splendid childhood and years, living in the past hampers your ability to be present in the moment.
However, if you constantly think about the trauma and negativity of the past, you will exist in a perpetual cycle. With every groan and groan, you lose the blessing that is before your eyes now. Also, chronic complaints about the past can make you more prone to developing anxiety disorders and depression.
4. Negativity generates more negativity
If you have studied the law of attraction, you will find that your attitude can attract more of the same, good or bad. Think of your life as planting a garden, and your attitudes and conversations are the seeds. You the garden of life It depends on the seeds you plant and how you grow them.
Negativity can be like an invading creeper. A few seeds can grow a stubborn plant that takes over the entire garden and chokes out good seedlings. You cannot keep stitching negative thoughts and words and thinking that you will get anything but a negative return.
When you want marigolds to grow, then you plant marigolds. You water, fertilize, and make sure they get adequate sunlight. It is quick to pick up any weeds that try to get in the way. If you want positive things to come into your life, you attract them with a positive mindset. Negativity breeds negativity.
5. The vicious cycle of finger pointing is difficult to handle
A troublesome issue with chronic complainants is that they often refuse to acknowledge an error or a fault. Instead of being responsible adults and accepting blame for something they did, they pass the buck. You will often hear them blaming others for any of their flaws or hurtful actions.
Their lives become a revolving door of bitterness and guilt, but they are flawless in their own eyes. They are quick to point out family, friends, and co-workers when they fail to fulfill their responsibilities. Chronic complainers blame past events instead of learning from them.
If this toxic behavior is left alone, it will only lead to more frustration and more guilt. They are blinded by the bitterness of the past and refuse to have the courage to apologize and make amends. For these chronic complainers, the future has nothing to offer but more negative reactions.
It has been wisely pointed out that the only constant in life is that they are not constant. The very process of life includes growth, change, and coping with the unexpected. There are many things on your journey that are beyond your control.
Instead of lamenting and complaining about what you can’t change, use your ability to change your attitude about these bumps in the road. Just as you must train your body to be physically fit, you can also train your mind for mental fitness. If you lie in the swamp of ingratitude and negativity, your mind will be helpless in the face of a crisis.
Strengthening your brain with positive thoughts and a good attitude will make a big difference when life turns into a curve ball.
7. Nobody wants to be part of your downward spiral.
Chronic whispers and whining affect more than the miserable person. Often times, you will notice that your rotten attitude has bled into your personal and professional life. Their partners may appear deflated and the children may have a sad effect. Co-workers fear being assigned to their project groups or working closely.
Do you see this pattern in your life? You may get caught up in the blame game and think that people are jealous and don’t like you. When you are honest with yourself, the blinders will disappear and you will realize that your picky eaters and complaints are to blame.
8. You make your partner feel underappreciated and unworthy.
The need for love and appreciation is as much a part of human need as food, water, and shelter. However, some people think that if they meet the basic material needs of their partner and family, their work is done. However, a person who constantly scolds and criticize your partner it does nothing to provide esteem and spiritual needs.
How do you feel when your partner is always on your back and finds fault in everything you do? It leaves you feeling sad, alone and unworthy. You may feel like you can’t do anything to make them happy, and the relationship is in the ruins of unfinished love.
9. People will stop listening to you
Do you feel that people are listening to you but not listening to you? It is true that some people have poor active listening skills. However, they may have given up listening to those opinions laden with criticism and useless complaints.
Even if you are an expert or have a lot of solid experience, people may stop listening because of your negative attitude. If you are in a bad mood with the way you give instructions and then tear others to pieces when you try something new, don’t expect admiration. Soon, the only person you’ll be growling at will be yourself in a lonely space.
10. You could find yourself alone in your unhappiness
When do you hit a dead end where nothing makes you happy? Protests and murmurs about everyone and everything under the sun. As these become faded memories, what will be left? If nothing satisfies you, then the universe wants to make you happy and gives you that: absolutely nothing.
For some, this harsh understanding is enough to cleanse their lives and begin to rebuild damaged relationships. It is not a quick fix or an easy task to do. Sometimes people need treatment options from a mental health professional to overcome chronic complaints and general lack of satisfaction.
You are the only person in the world responsible for your joy. If you are drowning in a mire of chronic fault finding and complaint, your personal and professional relationships will suffer.
It takes a loving eye and grateful heart to look beyond the dark rain clouds and wait for the beautiful rainbow. If you live in the darkness and negativity of the valleys of life, it will affect you and those around you.